Decisions, decisions, decisions. Do you find yourself being indecisive with things in your life, and you don't know what direction to go in? Does the simplest tasks become monumental? If going in circles has become a way of life or you find yourself throwing up your hands and dealing with the matter later, you may be suffering from indecisiveness.
I have found myself in this position more than once. My livelihood is made from managing people. There are times when I have to step away and make a decision at a later time because I'm feeling stressed or overwhelmed. I know that I couldn't continue managing in that way, so I had to reassess my decision making skills.
I have found that stress plays a major role in my indecisiveness at times, but you may be feeling something different. There are 4 major areas that keep us from being able to make a decision. If you're finding yourself wavering on things ask yourself if you are feeling:
1. Fear - Are you afraid of making the wrong decision? If you're not making a major purchase and nobody will get hurt go ahead and make the decision. I do a pros and cons list. If the pros outweigh the cons, I have learned to live with my decision.
2. Over Analyzing - Do you spend time gathering information and reviewing it over and over? At some point we have to make a decision. Set a date and time, when it arrives make your decision and stick with it. It's okay to reassess your decision later and make adjustments.
3. Lack of Confidence - Are you confident with our skill set? If you know that you have the skills to accomplish your endeavor, believe in yourself. We're not perfect beings and we won't always make the right decisions, but we must learn to make them confidently.
4. Stress - Are you stressed out all the time? Take time to relax and breath a little. A walk with the children, your husband or a friend could be just what the doctor ordered. Take time to soak in the tub, sip a cup of tea or give yourself a home manicure. When you feel good about yourself, you feel good about life.
As leaders in our homes, businesses, and social influencers, decision making is a way of life for today's woman. We must lead not only with confidence, we must lead with conviction. Especially if we want others to follow. How do you handle indecisiveness?
I stew it over in my head sometimes, talk with someone wiser, and prayer, lots of prayer! I probably should do the praying first, then the rest I wouldn't have to waste my time on. When will we learn!!
ReplyDeleteGood points! I willingly admit that I have to beat a decision to death. It comes from years of having to ask myself to I really NEED that because I sure can't afford it! I tell my husband that I am frugal -- unless it comes to others then I will spend my .last dime and not think twice!
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