I had drinks with my girls over the week-end. We always engage in interesting conversations during our gatherings and this week-end was no exception. The single ladies debated whether they would have a one night stand or hook up. Several said they would and several said they would not. Wondering what my position was? I said no regardless of whether a condom was used or not. As much as I enjoy sex, I was not that trusting of another person at this stage of my life. Now don't get me wrong, I believe that 2 consenting adults should do whatever turns them on. I'm just not willing to put my life in the hands of someone for an organism. I understand that dating as a single parent can be difficult and hooking up is an option, but personally I don't believe that a one night stand would be satisfying.
Twenty years ago my position may have been different as a single woman, but I'm just to afraid to take this kind of chance now. Several of the single ladies believed that a condom would prevent unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases. I stated that condoms were not 100%. They do break at times, and it would be my luck that I would be the one that it would happen to.
I've found that as I've gotten older and a little wiser, my outlook on life has changed. My willingness to take chances has dwindled and I'm more cautious with who I socialize with. The fact that I have a security clearance also plays a role in that. My job requires a credit and background check, so it's important that I come out squeaky clean and disease free.
I also believe that my years as a teenage mother plays a role in my perspective. I have learned to choose wisely or at least put some thought into my decision making. This includes my sexual encounters. Would you have a one night stand if you were single?
